Are You in Love?

Millions of teenagers ask the question: "How will I know I'm in love?" As Dr. David R. Mace, executive director of the American Association of Marriage Counselors, put it: "It's always difficult to know for sure - especially when you're young."This quiz was prepared after extensive consultations with experts who have made wide-scale studies of this wonderful yet mysterious emotion. It should help a young person make that all-important decision: "Is it love- or something else?"

Answer the following questions with Yes or No.
Choose Yes only if you have quite definite feelings about your answer. If there's some doubt in your mind, check No.

1. Did this thing happen all of a sudden?

2. Would you be very jealous and upset if someone else made a serious play for him or her?

3. When you aren't together, do you find yourself mooning around, unable to do much except sigh over your beau or belle?

4. Are you more in love when you are together than when you are by yourself?

5. Do you honestly feel that the boy or girl is just about the Most Perfect Person in the world?

6. Are you, on the whole, pretty unhappy at home with your parents?

7. Do you know how your heart-throb feels about money and children?

8. Do you find that, when it comes to this particular boy or girl, you are always anxious to appear at your best - that you are conscience about what you say and how you look and act?

9. Most people agree that there cannot be real love unless two persons share common interest. But how about common miseries? Do both of you have a substantial number of complaints in common about homes, parents, school and other things in your life?

10. Suppose your beloved has gone on an extended trip and written you beautiful and affectionate letters. Would you show these around in your group?

Dunt look down.. dunt cheat k????








Scoring


Give yourself ten points for each No answer, zero for each Yes except in Question 7, where it' ten for Yes and zero for No.

A score of:
70 -100 It looks like the real thing
50 - 60 Indicates some uncertainty may exist
0 - 40 The romance may grow into love, but it's not there yet!

Perhaps you thought Yes answers revealed true love. Not so! It's the No reply that counts in each case except for Question 7. Here is why, according to the experts.


1. Real love does not happen all of a sudden. When people say, "We fell in love the moment we met," they actually mean that each corresponded to a certain ideal image held by the other. Most of us create these ideals in our minds whether we realize it or not. Thus, when we find someone who looks, acts and talks the way we imagined this special individual would, we are attracted- but that's all it is. Love can develop, but it takes time.

2. Jealousy is not a sign of true love. One of the greatest mistakes young people can make is to believe that the more violent the jealousy, the stronger the love. Some jealousy is normal between two people who care deeply about each other. But jealousy is really possessiveness, not love. Psychoanalyst Dr. Theodor Reik says that people who suffer acutely from jealousy often have an underlying sense of insecurity which leads to an overwhelming need to be loved. As a result, they can be extremely jealous even though they may not be in love at all.

3. Mooning, sighing and daydreaming are signs of infatuation, not love. Here's why: Real love is centered around the other person, with your whole behavior directed toward his or her welfare and happiness. Thus, a boy or girl in love can study and work comfortably, knowing he or she is thereby contributing to the other's happiness. Infatuation, on the other hand, is self-centered. The smitten one becomes absorbed in his own misery at being separated from the adored one or in daydreaming about her. He is in love with love, not a human being.

4. Love does not diminish when one is away from the loved one. If you love a person more when you are with him, chances are that your judgment is being influenced by the charm and excitement of his presence. When he is not around to dazzle you, some doubts emerge as Dr. David R. Mace, executive director of the American Association of Marriage Counselors, put it: if you feel this way, indications are the love is superficial.

5. Love is not really blind to a beloved's faults. The person in love knows and understands the other's shortcomings but cares deeply nonetheless. The infatuated person has a tendency to regard the adored one as flawless.

6. An unhappy home life can trick you into thinking you're in love. The files of marriage counselors are filled with cases of younger people who "fell in love" and married when all they really wanted was to escape from pressures they considered unbearable. For example, a young girl who is constantly battling with her parents sees her boy friend as the rescuing knight in shining armor who will "take her away from all this." She isn't in love- she just wants out.

7. Love cannot always perch on Cloud9: it must be practical, too. Two of the most crucial elements in a marriage, experts point out, are money and children. Young people seriously in love must know each other's views on these topics. If a couple hasn't talked them out, chances are the romance hasn't reached the real love stage.

8. Love does not make lovers ill at ease. Dr. Mace declares that when the way you are impressing the other person is the dominant concern in a relationship, real love is still distant. When you know you are loved for what you are, you feel at ease in the other's presence.

9. Being companions in misery is not the same as being in love. Marriage partners should be able to share miseries, but such sharing is not in itself love. All too frequently, young people mix up the two and enter into marriage simply because each has discovered a fellow sufferer with whom to unite against an unfriendly background.

10. Love is a private bond between two people. Authorities agree it can't be real if one party permits intimate details of a relationship to be made public. It may be a bit of prestige in the group, but hardly love.

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sureshot...a seprate section for love will be started soon..i cannt bear these..oh my god..please save me frm these love buffs....oh my kadavuley...

thnx for sharing this here praveena.........gr8 effort

Lol Pavan!!!! U better create a section!!!! Or not love topic will be posted averywhere!!!!! Beware Macha!!!!

And Praveena !!! Enam Kathe!!!! So U are the new love cupid in Uyirvani!!!! Hahaha!!!

i am not love cupid at teh same time i am not against it nesh. lolzz if u guys post love stuff shudnt i do it? pavan romba tension aagathee. its okk. coollll k??

good stuff praveena
nice

Itz Fun seeing u posting love topic!!!! Gimme 5 and welcome to da club!!! hahahaha!!!! So Enna Ma Story!!!! Have u met Ya prince Charming?

y machi so much tension... must be u had a love failure in life.. ppl come in and let us know the real story of pavan's love failure...




yeah... i suspect the same..
where is other love buff bunny...

I think Jenny is alwayz blur when it comes to love!!! Jenny plz stop scratching ya head!!!!!

haha ha.. rightly said machi... bunny should be bulbing now..
BTW,. no one came forward with pavan's story

dai guyya parthies sarathies...my no love failure coz i never fell in love da..i mean..i have no intention to jump from runnig train da

thats a misconception pavan... i pity u for that..

I agree with u partha.. I guess he (Pavan) has been taught by some one who is wrong in Love Idealogy...

U will understand this one day..

nice one

yenna antha pasta ku support aa? Tirupachi Aaruvaleye orey vettu

ayoo.. support pana kuda veta..? ena paavan ithu anniyama irukae..?


Hey yaru support panathu... na pavan side pa.. neengalum unga love umm..

enna karthik sir, ninga pavan ku support pannikonga i don't care
aana love corner layei love ku against-a
too much pa
appo nichayama oru failure irukku nu ninaikirein
am i right mr. karthik??

heera..
I have posted about my luv to one of the topics in this section.. anyway call me karthik.. I m not that much old enough for u to call me Sir.. or Mr.. ok va?




Heera..
I got that.. the topic is "Love doset need a reason" posted by Jen..

ada paavi... opposite side ku jump panita..
andha pavaney oru dabara thalayan..
avanukku nee supporta..

verum vaai varthai iruntha paravala Partha..

Aruval kiruval nu olaranae.. enna panrathu.. ?

hum unga love story-a padichein karthik
you were a man karthik at that time. nice. have u got any news about her?
aana iruntaalum love ku opposite-a over pa
seri polachi ponga ninga pavan ku bayantu taan solli irukkingannu ninaikirein
polachi ponga polachi ponga
hey partha pona potu karthick a manichiduvom

Still v are friends..

Hey heera.. I m afraid being against luv.. vena vaa pesi thirthukalam. enaku paavam partha pidikathu.. pesalam na ready..

Luv nu perula enna enna panitu irkanganu solatuma..?

enakku teriyatu pa
unga australia la enna aniyayam pandranganu
naan unga mela pavam laam padala pa
enna matter
love ku against-a irukka koodaatu
that's all

heyy heyy karthik n heera. wuts goin on in here. i agree wit karthik n heera. U c from karthik's side i wud say in europe n other countries they use love as a tool for other physical satisfaction. Trust me heera there r not many true love in abroad hereee. Everythin is just lust n sex. But frm heera's side karthik just cuz sum loves r bad doesnt mean "LOVE" is bad. U cant generalize in one sentence. All issues have two sides n u shud c both sideess. There u go. I support love but i dunt wanna fall in love. How bout u guyz???

Hey guys.. I accept what praveena says.. but one thing.. c said about Europe n other countries they misuse the word love.. this is not only in there but also in India, we are westernising not only in Technology but also culturally.. Heera.. u r blind about love.. just supporting love dosent mean that love is gr8... if u say 100 love is gr8 I can mention 101 faulty love's.. Where does the love take us..?... If a girl is pretty then a boy would luv (say 80% of love).. n same the other way back... I am against love..

Hey guys.. I accept what praveena says.. but one thing.. c said about Europe n other countries they misuse the word love.. this is not only in there but also in India, we are westernising not only in Technology but also culturally.. Heera.. u r blind about love.. just supporting love dosent mean that love is gr8... if u say 100 love is gr8 I can mention 101 faulty love's.. Where does the love take us..?... If a girl is pretty then a boy would luv (say 80% of love).. n same the other way back... I am against love..

but karthik physical beauty does play a role in love no matter wut. i mean there shud b a attraction first of all n then u wud have a opinion abt this person. For sum reasons our mind first goes with the beauty. In rare situation sum ppl go for the heart. Even i might go a lil bit on physical beauty but that wudnt b the first priority though. It is a part of my analysis. You cannot blame that bcuz its human instinct.

Lol Guyz... many dont know wht pavan did in skool cauz nobody here studied wit him xcept me ! he he... Pavan didnt hve any love failure guyz... cauz he still hasn't proposed yet he he... he is still lookin at his girl lolz ! Pavan, sorry machi for breaking out da story !

wow, vasanth u know pavan from school itself, interesting!!!

Cool da.. U kno him from skool..? Shall v share something about our skool life..?

go on then saravana

anyway world is turning is only bcoyz of GODs grace and................love
without love is nothing
love is not just a feeling beetween guys n girls its something misterious wich happens in our heart with eveybody(parents ciblings friends teachers y not in any objects too)
and i agree with u praveena in abroad yuck love is
i just dont write this word
and guest_karthick
i m sure im not blind about love
i m clear about m opinion
guys look first the beauty and girlz look all, for all and think about future and one thing its scinetifikly prooved

Thats not Guest_karthik.. Thats me SKarthik the one n only Karthik to offend u...


U kno what... we guys look for beauty r watever but still v look only about the particular girl... But u girls will look about our personality, status, bike or car, family, dress, shoe, upto socks... if luv is only about heart wat about all these...? I have mentioned only half of the list there.. So luv na girls.. girls nathaan luv... for gods sake... chumma polambama irunga....

appadiyei vachi konga
i just dont care

well karthik u knw gals lok for all of those bcuz its their sense of security. u guys look for gals to b hotn sexy.. its same thing. lolzzz i aint sayin all da guys r like that. but since hear a lot frm my guy friends they mostly talk ab gals they have seen n only da gals who look good. they wont even remember sum gals name bcuz that gals dun look gud. i tell them dun do this to the gals but guys r guys after all lolz heera ur comment is funny

Even I was talking abt the exceptions on our side.. Alright Praveena.. Lets finish this of here.. it getting complicated... N heera U just calm down.. no offence meant to u.. I m sorry I was wrong sumwhere...

lolz karthik no onei s takin it as offense. we all knw its just for fun. soo dun worrry karthik ok??? every1 one have their opinion so i am cool guy ok?

Alright, Lady the Great!!!

Lady the great??? Enna da Saravana, enna aachi???

ada U kno wat..?

Namma Praveena is " Our Gr8 Lady" or even v can tell her " Our Gr8 Girl"

ayayooo, unnoda serippa irukuthu saravana

karthik paarthiya naane 20 yrs ayidichee-nnu romba sada irukken. nee vera ennai lady-nu koopittu vayasa increase pannatheda? girl is much bettter karthik.. aww am i gr8 tats nice.. lolzzz just cuz u called me gr8 i aint gonna call u a nice name karthik lolzzzz kiddin.. so enna ippadiye chappaya fite ellam mudikkirai karthik enna gandhi maathirir aggapooriya? lolzzz

ayayo enna praveena, avanai ippdi kindal pannura, lolz.

karthick
naan onnum inta topic-a serious aalaam edutukala
just like that
chumma puntu vilaydalam ndu
ok pa
compromise
guyz r guyz
galz r galz
enna ippo santoshama??

lolzz jen aana avan innum reply pannala? where is he newayz?? lolzz heera nooo dunt surrender... galskku ithu disgracee.. noooo gals n guys r equal.. sama urimai ella enga poochu? heerrra why did u do this ??

I m back Praveena.. " our Gr8 Girl".. ok va..?

I m compromising cause this discussion knowingly or unknowingly makes us hostile to each other ma...

I dunno about others.. heera is offending me too much.... I m not sure what I have done to her.. n praveena with u, I know whatever I say U r going to offend that.. I m not telling no to equal Importance.. 50-50 is ok.. but the way u speak is 100-0......I definitely wont take that..


I welcome ur compromise Heera..

Thanks friend.

lolzz karthikk we all were jokin daa.. i dunt think heeraaa was offending u in anyway. its all friendly fiting. no one take it as offfense... c'mon dunt u have friendly fite wit ur friends n siblings? not even to ur paretns?? i love to have funny fitess.. achooo karthik unkoodaa fite panna bayama irukku. u take everythin seriouslyyy....welll i meant 50-50 is good but 100-0 is not fair for any gender.. pothuma ?i wudnt want tat to b liek that eitherrr cheeer upp karthik n take it as a friendly comments... lolzzz okva?? everythin cleared???? u say wut u want we say wat we want. no 1 is forcing anything on any of us. so we all may stick wit our own viewww paaa. okkvA???

well praveena.. I m cleared n ok with with that.. lets continue..!!

offending-aaa
naana
karthick koodaya
not at all
i was just joking pa like praveena
just friendly brother

lolz... whr is pavan ???